Winning Points with the Woman in Your Life by Jaci Rae

Author:Jaci Rae
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Simon & Schuster
Published: 2005-07-15T00:00:00+00:00

Above all, invest time to cultivate your friendship. No matter how busy your schedule, there is always a way to make room for someone who is important to you. If your relationship is important to you, you must make time. Just as a football player runs the extra miles, takes extra classes and spends the wee hours of the morning to read and learn more about his game in order to impress his coach, team and hone his skills to become a better player, so too, you must practice the same disciplines for your relationship.

Women: Compliment your partner and notice when he does even the smallest positive deed. That will encourage him to rise up and do more. It makes him feel like you believe in him, which you should! When you expect the best from people, you will usually get it. Men are as sensitive to praise and encouragement as women are.

Also, don’t nitpick when he does things. If he cleans the toilet, don’t criticize the way he did it if he didn’t do it the way you would. Of course he didn’t do it your way because he’s not you! Rather, be happy that he did it at all.

When I was nine years old, a neighbor hired me to wash his windows. I desperately needed a winter jacket and the twenty dollars he was going to pay me to do all of the windows in his house would go a long way to purchase one for me for the upcoming winter months. To begin with, he assigned the sliding glass doors at the back of the house for me to work on. I worked very hard to achieve the result of the spotless shinny glass, which he wanted. However, each time I finished one of the doors, he would come over and find a small streak on one of them and tell me to wash it again.

After what seemed like an entire summer day of washing just that one sliding glass door in every way he showed me, he still told me it was done inadequately and was not clean enough for him. Finally I left, knowing that no matter how hard I worked or how clean the door was, it would never be up to his standards. He never paid me for the sliding glass door that took several hours and it left a deep impression on me about failure and the inability to please someone. When you criticize someone continually for something they have worked hard on in order to please you, you are crushing their spirit and causing them to stop wanting to continue working on whatever you criticized them about. This particular subject was highly commented on during the survey I took of men. So watch and be aware of your comments women, because you are discouraging the men in your life, just as my neighbor did to me.

Men: I have heard a lot of men say to their partners, “It’s never good enough

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